Sunday, January 11, 2015

William Preston Thomas

We have a son! William Preston Thomas was born on Tuesday morning, December 30th 2014. He's been in our lives for 10 days and already we cannot imagine life without him. We are so tired and so happy. I want to document his birth story for many reasons. But his birth was not an easy one for me physically and so I hope I can write the story well without making it sound like it was without joy.

At a week late I was induced. I have so many friends and family members who are induced and so while I was hoping he would come into the world on his own we made the decision to go in for an induction. When you are 7-10 days late they induce you regardless because at that point it is safer for the baby to be outside of you instead of inside. We talked and prayed about going in before we had hit 10 days but felt peaceful about our appointment. So on Monday morning at 7:00am we headed to the hospital, bags in tow, excited that we would finally get to meet our baby. My parents had come into town for Christmas and his birth so they snapped a few pictures for us and sent us off. I was thrilled to know I wouldn't be pregnant much longer. Even with an easy pregnancy those last couple weeks drag by so slowly & patience is harder to have.






The first thing they do in an induction is place a pill in you to help prep/nudge the body. They do this before they start pitocin, the drug that actually makes you contract & be in labor. The pill isn't meant to actually start labor itself. However in some women, myself included, that's actually what it does. My body kicked into labor on its own and started dilating and contracting. We were thrilled! We weren't going to need pitocin. When I was dilated to a 5 my water broke on it's own which was another exciting move. The majority of women need their water broken for them. I naively thought that like my pregnancy, labor was going to be seamless when this happened. Not painless of course, but without a complication in sight. Contractions started coming super frequently and super strong and while I like to think I'm tough I got an epidural soon after my water broke. It was so nice to have the pain dulled and to be able to kind of rest while my body continued to contract. It sounds ridiculous but I did not think that it would hurt as much as it did. Holy moly. Preston was amazing breathing through contractions with me. And the staff was so kind and helpful.

Well, my body dilated to a 9 and then stopped. It would not budge. After a while of waiting they gave me the smallest amount of pitocin possible to try and help my body reach a 10. But sweet William's heart rate dropped when they gave it to me. By the time it had all been given I still wasn't a 10 and we didn't want to risk his heart rate by giving me more. To add another obstacle, my sweet boy who had been in the perfect birthing position for the past three weeks had turned. He was facing my side now. So we had a difficult position, a body who wouldn't reach 10 centimeters & a momma who was exhausted. But I wanted to fight for a vaginal birth. Preston helped me move and I tried different positions to help my body move him down. Normally when you get an epidural you aren't able to get up because they don't want you to fall as your lower half has been numbed. But we powered through and tried.

I started feeling the urge to push. So with a midwife on one leg, a doctor on the other, Preston coaching me at my head & another doctor manually trying to open me as I pushed we tried, pushed and fought for two hours. William would not budge. The combination of everything just wasn't allowing it. My water had been broken a long time & once it's been broken the baby needs to come out within 24 hours otherwise there's a risk of infection for the baby. Plus his heart rate was still in a safe range but wavering enough that I was told I needed to have a c-section.





Now I am not against any kind of birth. Any way a baby is brought into the world is beautiful. I sincerely have no judgement for any of the many options when it comes to birthing a baby. But for me my one fear was a c-section. I thought since I had kept my body strong I wouldn't need one and was hoping to do this vaginally. I was so tired from pushing for two hours that I just burst into tears. I felt so defeated. The doctors & nurses cleared the room so that Preston and I could have minute and he was a champ calming me down and making me feel like I had done so well and done everything I could. He said a prayer for us and then called everyone back in so I could be brought into surgery. 23 hours of labor ending and c-section later we had our sweet William, born at 6:40am. The surgery itself only takes half an hour from beginning to end. Unfortunately the anesthesia made me nauseous and so I got sick during part of it. But Preston was able to take photos and hold the baby for the first time. He held his sweet face up to mine so I could kiss his cheeks. It was so hard to wait to finish surgery to be able to hold him and do skin to skin. The emotions are not easily described. I was so happy he was healthy & here. 7 lbs 9 oz & 21 inches long he was born with perfect skin and a perfectly shaped head. Beautiful as can be. He was so alert right from birth when he opened his eyes I felt like he was really seeing us when he looked at us. We fell in love!




Having to have a c-section is still something that's hard for me to think about. But I am so full of love and happiness that I have such a loving, supportive, rock star husband & perfect baby boy. I know so many who can't have kids or have babies born who struggle with their health. I am so blessed and so thankful. I consider myself so lucky. And I am so thankful for modern medicine. The nurses and doctors continued to be amazing throughout our hospital stay. And we were able to go home that Friday. We were so ready to be in our own home! Especially with a c-section I don't know what I would have done without Preston & my parents being so helpful. I love my little family and am so excited to build memories and hit milestones with William.





Xoxo